One girlfriend said, Well, how do I know what I want? What you think you may want may want, might not be correct for you, so here is what I call The 21 day get what you want diet for your mind, body and spirit. No it does not involve doing affirmations.  It is giving yourself permission to write down what you think you want and allowing your spirit  and intuition to guide your own hand to say what you need. Once you see it on paper it begins to create a new pattern and a new way of thinking. It also allows for the laws of attraction to start working.

For example the first few days you may write, Oh make him or her a generous, loving , sexy person. The next day you may write a whole page talking about looks, the next day a sentence about what makes you happy, but by the 5th or 6th day you will find an extraordinary thing happening, things will indeed start to change as you allow your hand to randomly write WHAT YOU NEED, NOT WHAT YOU WANT.